I am a breast cancer survivor and a Butch.
I served in the US Army from 1974-1976. Transferred to the US Navy in 1976. Did transfer training (familiarization with port and starboard stuff) at Gt Lakes NTC and then was stationed at Mayport Florida (3 hours from home). Honorable Discharge from both Army and Navy. OH and I used to do a drag king act while based in Mayport at “The Little Dude”.
I was abused for most of my teenage years, left home as soon as I was “old enough”, joined the military and tried to hide my sexuality (this was in the 70’s). The military was everything I wanted. Discipline, commeraderie, training, HARD physical stuff … in short, I LOVED it !!!
Unfortunately, I had a Drill Sargeant who’s gaydar was working a bit TOO well. I ended up being repeatedly raped, forced to do things to her, for her, etc. I was told that she would tell the “right people” that I was a dyke and I would be dishonorably discharged. All I wanted was the military and I was naive enough to believe that if I went to the “right people” and told them what she was doing to me, she would be patted on the back and I would be railroaded out. On top of that, several years later, while STILL in the military I might add, I was brutally gang-raped, told I was not pregnant and as a result have a handsome 26 year old son who is my miracle.
My point ???
Simply that after all this I am these days greatly involved in D/s and BDSM. The thing is that Safe Sane and Consensual is the “code” upon which it is ALL based. Dominants who are good ones … worthy of a subs gifts of submission will ask them about their past, will insist that they know everything. They will be patient … knowing that some things take time to tell. They will NEED to be told if you are “new” to the “scene” and then, IF they are a conscientious dominant … will start teaching you things YOU need to know for your own safety and peace of mind. They will explain to you about limits … hard and fast ones and those that might be pushable.
I wish you luck in your search for knowledge. Feel free to contact me any time.
